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There are situations in which divorce must be encouraged, commanded and accomplished. I know that assertion will seem ungodly or blasphemous and I would have called it godly blasphemy but for the fact that it is not blasphemy. It should seem blasphemous because we have believed and rightly believed that divorce is ungodly in so far it is unbiblical. Well, those who have chosen to set Mosaic admissibility as the final revelation of God’s plan of a home will disagree with such unbiblicality. That was the way some approached Jesus and tested Him with Moses’ codes:
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?  
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery (Matthew 19:3-9).
They had asked Jesus if it would be lawful to divorce one’s wife but within them they had a fundamental stance that it is surely lawful. But Jesus reminded them that God made a male and a female because He wanted a female to be with a male, together as one, inseparable. But they argued that Moses, whose votary they always were, gave them the right to write a divorcement for any wife they wish to divorce. Jesus’ conclusion is clear, ‘except for the case of adultery,’ divorce complemented with remarrying of another woman is sinful and marrying a divorced woman would be adultery. If adultery is a sin worth death by stoning then divorce is a sin worthy of death. From that we cannot doubt the sinfulness in divorce. It is undebatable that divorce is not allowed. Jesus was learned in the scriptures. He knew God never intended to sanction divorce but since the Israelites were stiff-necked He allowed divorce. One may wonder why God allowed what he hated! Why, really? I believe that it is for peace sake and for the fact that they were not yet made fit to receive the laws into their hearts, and needed to be taught to do good. Truly, God knows those who are His; He knows those who are weak; those who are strong; those who are babes and those who are adults and being the chief shepherd, He deals with His children with love, urging them to grow yet relating with each at a necessary level. That is why Timothy must learn to divide the word of truth appropriately. Whatever the case may be, the scriptures revealed:
For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously (Malachi 2:16).
There cannot be any overruling of this categorical expression of God’s mind concerning marital conflict. God loves family. God loves two being one. God loves a man to be with his woman, living together peacefully and getting to resolve disagreements as the case may be. He himself is love and He initiated love. Let us see how His implantation of love into the heart of man played out in Adam positively. After she caused him misery, he never put her away. What he missed was enough for putting her away but he didn’t. Rather, he called her mother of all living things and he knew her and they sired children. We can say that there was no other woman so he had no choice. But surely he never had ill will against his wife. When God questioned him, he had tried to put the blame on the woman and on God, well such cunning act was possible since sin was now part of the nature of him. The point still remained that God intended that a man and a woman having left their parents should live together as husband and wife ever or till death as it later turned out to be. So, I do know and I will not dare imagine otherwise that divorce is ungodly, unbiblical and un-allowed. Not originally allowed, may be allowed after apostasy but not allowed after Jesus set things right again. Oh God forbids that anyone comes to encourage divorce or say that God approves divorce! God will never allow divorce. He detests it yet he could tolerate them to still divorce their wives because of the hardness of their hearts. How so? He detests divorce yet allows them to give their wives letter of putting away? How contradictory? Hmmm! Quite contradictory I guess! But it is simply because God knows the heart of man was not yet redeemed. It is potentially evil. It could get Naboth Killed by false witnesses in the name of God. The heart of man is evil and full of evil daily such that a man after God’s heart could violate his own loyal servant’s wife and have that servant, Uriah killed. God knew the heart of man could be violent as revealed in Malachi 2:16. Man could be deadly when his heart lusts to possess or rages to dispossess anything or anyone such that Amnon could get sick, violate his half-sister and then deaths would follow. He, being the Almighty and Loving Father, simply considered their yet-to-be-redeemed state of heart. He simply saved the women from husband’s desperation that could lead to homicide, specifically, uxoricide. God forbids that I say that He supports divorce. No, God doesn’t and won’t ever.
Having said this, I return, quite controversially, to my earlier assertion that there may be (in fact not ‘there may’ but ‘there is’) a case in which divorce must be encouraged, commanded and accomplished in concordance with God’s will.

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